Nobody could deny that Nina Dobrev and Ian Somerhalder, who played Elena Gilbert and Damon Salvatore on the CW’s The Vampire Diaries had fantastic chemistry on screen. So, it wasn’t surprising that they came out as a dating couple in 2011. Their real-life romance even seemed to fuel their on-screen passion. However, not every Hollywood love story ends happily ever after. Fans of “The Vampire Diaries” were taken aback by the couple’s 2013 split.
A fan posted in 2014, “Still hurt abt Nina and Ian’s breakup honestly,” and another fan tweeted in 2018, “It’s been 4 Years and I’m only sad and obsessed with Ian and Nina’s breakup now.” See? No, seriously, we meant “stunned” in every sense of the word. So, what exactly happened between Dobrev and Somerhalder? Several factors made it impossible for these TV performers to succeed.
Ian Somerhalder Longed For A Steady Relationship
Although others believe that age should not be a consideration when it comes to love, a significant age difference may make it challenging for particular couples to be together over the long run. Despite appearances, Nina Dobrev and Ian Somerhalder were six years apart when their three-year relationship ended. Dobrev was 24 and Somerhalder was 34. An enormous age gap suggests that these two were living in entirely different worlds, which can cause friction in any relationship.
To continue the theme of being in different places, it was clear from how quickly Ian Somerhalder moved on that he was eager to tie the knot. Somerhalder started dating Nikki Reed after his breakup with Dobrev in 2013. In 2014, the couple finally admitted they were dating and engaged by the end of the year! After dating for a while, Somerhalder and Reed eventually married the wedding in 2015, two years before they welcomed their daughter into the world.
The inevitable question of how Nina Dobrev felt about seeing her ex-marriage boyfriend to another woman was met with praise for the “wonderful” ceremony her ex had with Reed. For her part, Dobrev told E! News, “They look happy and I am pleased and so I don’t see why there should be a problem with that.” The media is creating the drama, not us.
Reports Said That Nina Dobrev Wasn’t Committed To Getting Married
Where did Nina Dobrev wish to go instead of settling down? A close friend of Dobrev told Us Weekly, “She decided she wanted to try other things before making a long-term commitment.” It appears that Dobrev was on board with the concept of a long-term relationship with Ian Somerhalder, but she felt things were moving too fast for her liking.
According to Life & Style’s insider, Dobrev is just not ready to make that significant commitment yet” and could want to wait “around ten years.” The magazine correctly noted that it was unlikely Somerhalder would wait until he was 44 before settling down. It’s easy to see why Dobrev might choose not to devote her time only to marriage.
Both Were At Different Stages In Their Careers
Since Somerhalder’s career began in the late ’90s, it stands to reason that he would have reached a contentment point before settling down and starting a family. On the other hand, Nina Dobrev’s acting career didn’t take off until after they married, even though she’d been working in the industry for a while. Due to her ambitions, Dobrev probably wasn’t interested in putting her acting career on hold to focus on a personal relationship.
Even more so, what’s the point? There appears to have been a fundamental difference in their professional aspirations. Somerhalder, for example, has avoided numerous on-screen roles since his separation, opting instead to focus on non-acting endeavors like his partnership with Nikki Reed in the production business Rare Birds Productions.
The business also signed an agreement with Warner Bros. Television in 2016 to create unscripted and scripted programming for the channel. Dobrev, meantime, hasn’t lost her acting itch, as evidenced by her latest role as the lead in the CBS sitcom Fam. Although it’s impossible to know, the exes’ divergent goals probably contributed to their breakup.
Dating A Coworker Was Just Too Difficult
It’s not uncommon for two people to meet at work and then start dating. Mic found that 17% of people who took their survey had met their spouse or partner while working together. Yet, it’s important to remember that interacting with coworkers can be complex. Furthermore, Ian Somerhalder and Nina Dobrev may have experienced some turbulence in their relationship due to their efforts to maintain a healthy work-life balance.
Dobrev, who has stated that dating a coworker was something she was at first attempting to avoid, is the best person to ask about this. In an interview with Seventeen (via MTV News) in 2010, barely a year before her relationship with Somerhalder was disclosed, she commented, “I think it could become tricky if you dated your costar.” “Dating an actor is difficult, to put it bluntly. Lots of egotism is at play. And they’re not quite sane. They’re stuck inside their heads. You have a stunning group of friends and acquaintances at all times. No, I’d rather not date a performer.”
They’re The Definition Of “Breakup Goals”
Dobrev’s philosophy may have played a role in her and Somerhalder’s ability to maintain their friendship. “Whether it’s a current love, a buddy, or an ex, I always do my best to treat them well. I’ll always try to treat people how I want to be treated,” she stated in 2014 with Nylon. When she sends her ex-boyfriend well wishes on his wedding day or hangs out with Ian Somerhalder and Nikki Reed, it’s evident that Nina Dobrev is committed to maintaining a positive attitude.
Dobrev, Somerhalder and Reed all had dinner together in 2017 and Dobrev and Reed both posted on social media about the encounter. Reed said, “So here’s to putting an end to all those bogus stories of on-set jealousy, betrayal, made-up friendships lost & women hating women.” The allegations had been circulating for years.
Reed and Somerhalder’s happy ending proves that not all Hollywood couples end up together. People might gain wisdom and maturity from past relationships and then move on. This certainly seems to be the case for the former Vampire Diaries castmates, and we wish them the best!
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